Well, Shit
Heidi P., stop reading RIGHT NOW.
For the rest of you, we will have to skip part II of how not to adopt from Kazakhstan, as we now have more pressing matters:
There is no child for us here.
That's right -- we flew for 30 hours, around the world, to sit this morning in a stinky hot room and listen to two angry Kazakh women yell at our coordinator and translator that Americans only want to adopt babies, and they have older children who need homes, and the only child they could offer us was three years old.
And they had told her that her momma and dada were coming today. She screamed "Mama!" at me as we walked into the orphanage.
We are only approved by immigration for an infant under one year. We cannot adopt this child, no matter how hard it is to think that they are going to have to tell her that.
Our coordinator thinks they are lying. I think he is right -- it's a long story, but basically they were told last week that there were six children under one year old available for adoption. Today we were told that there was only one, and that she had been adopted last week by a Kazakh family.
D. is livid.
I am working on Zen.
Our coordinator is working frantically to call her bluff, and if that fails, to move us to a different region. We are exhausted, and jet lagged, and frustrated.
Please say a few more prayers for us.
Oh, Soper, and D. I am so sorry you're facing this. I can believe you are pissed as hell right now. Hoping like crazy something good will come from this, praying for you this week. Hang in there. Shit.
Posted by: Sisyphus | August 01, 2005 at 06:44 AM
I am so, so sorry. Thinking good thoughts for you that this works out. How insane.
Posted by: Cat, Galloping | August 01, 2005 at 08:04 AM
Oh, no.
No, no, no.
Posted by: Julie | August 01, 2005 at 08:10 AM
I'm so sorry this is happening to you! Please try to hang on in there!!!
Posted by: nela | August 01, 2005 at 08:16 AM
Oh, Sopher. I'm so so sorry and furious that this is happening to you. You are in my thoughts and I'm praying for something good for you and D.
Posted by: Suz | August 01, 2005 at 08:36 AM
Oh, no. :(
Posted by: frog | August 01, 2005 at 08:51 AM
Un fucking believable!
Posted by: Lala | August 01, 2005 at 09:05 AM
Oh, Soper. So sorry that you're having to go through all this. I'll be hoping and praying for you that it all works out.
Posted by: Danielle | August 01, 2005 at 09:33 AM
Oh, Soper. I'm so sorry! I really hope something good happens soon. Any zen, karma or other cosmic weight I have is currently being sent your way. I'm really, really sorry.
Posted by: Erin | August 01, 2005 at 09:42 AM
OMG, what a nightmare. I will send as many good thoughts your way as I can. I hope things get straightened out as quickly as possible.
Posted by: Amber | August 01, 2005 at 09:46 AM
I am so sorry. So so sorry. What a nightmare. Thinking of you...
Posted by: Kristin | August 01, 2005 at 09:51 AM
Holy crap. I'm so very sorry. You guys will be in my thoughts.
Posted by: Amanda | August 01, 2005 at 09:51 AM
Oh no. How horrible! I'm sending good thoughts your way.
Posted by: Ninotchka | August 01, 2005 at 09:54 AM
There are no words, Soper. What a horrible situation to find yourself in. I'm emailing the Universe right now to GET IT FUCKING RIGHT FOR A CHANGE.
Posted by: deborah | August 01, 2005 at 09:55 AM
I can barely type, since my jaw is hanging so low that it keeps getting in the way of the keyboard.
OK. OK. OK. This is a fuck-up of, I don't know, monumental proporation. I am sending you some positive energy that it somehow ends up working out. It HAS to work out.
Posted by: B. Mare | August 01, 2005 at 09:58 AM
Unbelievable. Please keep us posted, I'm sending all the positive energy I can you way that they get this worked out for you...this is crazy.
Posted by: VHMPrincess | August 01, 2005 at 10:08 AM
UNREAL. Unfucking believable. I cannot believe this. This is horrible. Worse than horrible. It is unimaginable.
Soper, I am so very, very sorry. I so, so, so, so, SO hope that this somehow works itself out within in the next day or two. It is so WRONG that you and D, of ALL people who have suffered enough, should have to go through this. Goodluck with the Zen, Soper.
Posted by: Susan / holdingpattern | August 01, 2005 at 10:09 AM
Oh my God....that is terrible. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. I am really hoping that they are able to work something out ASAP...I just can't even imagine. Words fail me.
Posted by: Miss W | August 01, 2005 at 10:27 AM
I'm so sorry. What a nightmare. I'm praying for you!
Posted by: beaver girl | August 01, 2005 at 10:41 AM
Oh no! I just can't understand why after all this, you're faced with more frustration and aggravation. I hope something can be figured out. I'll be praying for it.
Posted by: Katie | August 01, 2005 at 10:53 AM
OMGod! This is outrageous!!!!! NO F'ING WAY!
Many MANY ferverent prayers for you and D.
Ashley :(
Posted by: Ashley | August 01, 2005 at 10:55 AM
I hope you'll be home with your baby soon
Posted by: Mieke | August 01, 2005 at 10:56 AM
Oh man! Hope it works out really soon!
Posted by: Michelle | August 01, 2005 at 10:57 AM
WHAT?! This absolutely blows my mind. I am sick for you. Hoping and hoping that some heads are pulled out of asses and this rights itself soon --
Posted by: Molly | August 01, 2005 at 10:59 AM
Damn it all to hell. Those crazy Russians! Don't give them any more money either!
Posted by: Kate | August 01, 2005 at 11:04 AM